What's it like to be hot?
To be desired and lusted after by just about every member of the opposite sex, and even some from the same gender? To walk into a room and see the heads swivel; to stop conversation dead while people leer and ogle? To have people salivate over a pic that you post and comment about how "hawt" or sexy you are?
Is it always nice to get that kind of attention? Or does it sometimes drain you or become tiring? Does it ever become a "burden?" I'm guessing that happens, but never to the point that you wish you were "normal," huh?
Do you ever worry about what happens when/if the looks go? If you get into a disfiguring accident, or just get old? Do you wonder how different it will be to only "look good for your age" or to actually be more normal, to be non-hot? To not be a babe or stud any longer? Will you do the plastic surgery thing, maybe get a lift or some botox treatments?
Or do you just not worry about that at all, and let the future take care of the future?
Just wonderin' ...
The mad and often disjointed rantings of a large man. Warning: Posts on this blog may not be suitable for younger readers.
13 comments:
ok, I think there is a conspiracy here. Dzer's post, gigi's post and my post all have to do with superficial stuff. What's up with this?
Oh lord...if anyone comments about this, you're gonna pick on them and say their stuck up aren't you?
jenn: I dunno ... maybe I was influenced by those posts ... LOL
linny: me? a pick-on kinda guy? hmm ...
alright doz, I'll tell ya.
and I am certainly not the hottest thing going, but I've caused an accident or two...
no being snobby whatsoever, being honest.
It sucks.
I am a mensa member, with a huge IQ and a confident business woman. You think anyone really pays attention to my resume, or has intellectual conversations with me?
Uh, no.
Can I make a fucking copy or drop a paper clip without stopping the whole office? Do I like that I draw attention?
Uh, no.
Oggled at the 7-11 is not my idea of a goodtime if I just wanna get milk in the middle of the night.
I get hit on, I don't get proper customer service ANYWHERE.
My hit content and comments on my blog goes wayyy up when I post a pic, but not when I write something true to my heart or my opinion. Which is sad, cause it only shows that I am more tits and ass then anything.
I would like it if I would be taken seriously. That's not an option for hot people...
it sucks Doz, because you're right. What happens when the hotness fades...
for me? No botox or plastic... Ill be happy when people think my mind is more beautiful. And if I have to wait til old age for that.. then at least I got that going for me.
There, I feel better.
naughty one: I thought this might be one of the responses, if any responses were made — about not being taken seriously, or accepted/acknowledged for intelligence because of looks.
but isn't that generally first impressions, or what you get from strangers. at work, after you show you intelligence and what you are capable of, doesn't that get added? don't you go from "hot chick" to "hot chick with brains?"
I for one appreciate your hotness ... your tits and ass (and legs and clavicles and wrists and neck, etc.) ... but I also hope you know I appreciate your writing, and how your brain works, and the sense of humor. If nothing else, you know that I'm one of the ones who are there every day, pic or no pic, erotica or something else.
Because I'm hooked on you ... just a smidge.
chrissie: good answer ... and anytime you need help lifting the boobs, lemme know ... I'll help ;)
Ah hell Dzer, the only heads I turn are the ones that await their beer on the other side of the bar while I'm tending. They want ALCOHOL! Fricken people.
At the age of 31, gravity takes hold......I stopped growing 'upward' and found out someone's been following me... MY ASS! Baby got back!
Girls have it a little easier-- we can stuff our boobs in a bra that looks like implants, ....we can wear heels that make our butt look a bit perkier....
I walk into bars- there are all kids in baseball caps.... I used to attract the 'younger men', and now, it seems I attract the old farts.
Gay women don't ever hit on me. They don't think I'm gay. This sucks.
Ughh, between your blog and Chrissie's blog (with her dying tests) I'm depressed now.
PROZAC PLEEEAAAASSSSEEEEE!!!!!!!!
*sigh*
Okay. I'm done.
Back to you, Dzerrrrrrr
hey ... you come across to me as very fuckable ... though I'm not a gay woman ... so I guess that doesn't mean much, huh? LOL
I have always been overweight. What I have found is that no matter what I may have to say, people only notice that I am fat. I overcompensate by doing everything in the world for everyone. I'm a pleaser in every sense trying to make up for my looks.
Everyone has some sort of flaw. However, when you are fat, you cannot hide that flaw and people tend to focus on it. When you walk into a room, you know that the only thing people are thinking about is, "Ewwww, fat chick alert!".
This is the life I have suffered no matter how "nice" I might be.
jenn: I've also been big/fat my whole life. When I was young, I channeled my reactions to teasing and name-calling through physical violence — beating the shit out of other kids, even older kids. As I got older, I honed my wit, sense of humor and intelligence to use as verbal attacks.
And I've always been the nice guy and the funny guy, in an attempt to compensate for being the fat guy.
It's always the most clear with young children, before they develop any kind of thought filters. "Mom! That man is FAT!" Everyone else pretty much thinks the same thing ... they just don't blurt it out.
sugarpunk: hot can be relative, and I totally agree that hot doesn't always equal nice. I've known very good looking people who were total fucks, both male and female. But I've also known gorgeous people who were the nicest anyone could be.
And you mean the wolf whistles don't work? Damn! I was just learning to perfect it! LOL
I've never thought that I was hot. I don't think that I'm ugly, but I just never saw myself as being hot. I think I'm cute... and when I go out I can turn some heads. I do like HNT. It is fun and I have to admit... I love the comments! Hehe!
On a more serious side, I've been married for the past 8 years, so I haven't even noticed if guys were looking or not. Now that I'm getting the divorce and I have started looking myself, I saw them looking also. That was a big shock to me. It makes me feel good and puts a smile on my face, but it's not what is going to carry me through the rest of my life.
I'm not sure if I'd ever do any of the body enhancing things. I try and eat healthy (sometimes) and work out (sometimes). I've thought about having a lift, but I've been told that my boobs are perfect and who would want to mess with that! LOL!
The main problem that I have with my looks is that a lot of people think that I look between 18 and 25. They don't want to take me seriously because they think that I'm too young. When working with homeowners, I've had them ask me how old I am. They will ask me a question and I will answer it and then they say that they want to check with the guy at the retail store. WTF! I've been doing this for 9 years and he wants to go ask the older man on the retail floor that has only been doing this for 2 weeks? People are so rude!
I agree with Sug on the guy hotness level. I fall for their mind and personality more than their looks.
lilith: thanks for participating, darlin' ... and how is it that hot chicks don't know they're hot?
I get the babyface thing all the time ... but then again I'm a towering mass of manhood, so it doesn't matter as much with me LOL
you know it's true... sure my regular readers on my blog are convinced i'm hot but the world outside the computer doens't seem to be noticing....
i recall being traffic stopping hot and all ego aside i'll probably get there again. and you know what? bubbles is completely right. I have an iq higher than most (i didn't try to join mensa but i'm curious enough to think about it and i suspect i would get in...) and when i was that stage of hot i was getting straight a's in college. and you know what? I was stupid. no matter what i did or said i was treated like i was stupid.
and yes, occasionally some people would get past it and see the brain inside... but so many fewer than you would expect.
i've noticed though that if i'm fat it's not any better... because then they just look through me.
so yeah... i figure if i can't get a date anyway i might as well be hot enough to piss off the other girls *chuckling*
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